Finding the Passion in Us and Our Kids

I am passionate about people finding their passion for the longest time I hadn’t been able to live my dream… for the last couple of years … well eight (8) years precisely.

Then one day I got angry, I realized I had no time for me and no life at all. All I did revolved around my kids; as I write it still does nothing has changed. The only difference is I intentionally create time for me now while I create time for them.

I’m also comfortable with a house that’s not organized because I’m busy dreaming away some awesome idea at my computer table.

But now I have found a way to schedule me back in. Now that I know better, I’m learning to balance it all (their life and mine) and that is what I plan to do.

I refuse been labeled part of the statistics, a parent raising her kids alone… bla bla bla on a daily basis, is all you hear and I’m part of the chatter too.

You can tell who we are by looking at us; they say the way we dress, the way we look before natural hairstyles became the rage that was our go to look, omg! Also they are never at their kid’s school for PTA meetings and other events and activities, because they are working and are tired and some even work two or more jobs.

I started this blog to show how I live this life and that you can do this too, don’t need to wait for eight years before you do! like me.

Yes, we can hustle and still look good! It is not like you dreamed of this changed life or how it is now at some wonderful stage in your life before now.

I didn’t even try to look good you know like my old younger self, because there was no time, work and scheduling 3 boys and church was my life.

It got to a point where my priority was no longer looking good but just surviving from day-to-day. I didn’t even try, I stopped making myself up and stopped putting on a lipstick. I noticed that going to a Nigerian party required a lot from a mother of kids ages 7, 4, and 0.

That time long ago, the plan was to only attend certain events. Events are always time and money consuming events, you had to paying for a babysitter, gas for my car to and from the event, then there is also aso-ebi, hair had to look good under gele (to get hair done you need a babysitter, again).

With so much disposable income available to me, laughing here, I became comfortable with informal events that required that all I did was show up; i found that in the parks, library and service in a cause.

It’s funny how the community never offers to help out, never to babysit or bring you food, but would easily tell you they are praying for you and thank God that you are still alive, but no works to back the prayer or they ask you why you didn’t ask for help. Really? Why didn’t you ask if I needed help… that’s all you’ve got.

In hindsight this is a great advice no one offers help willingly to you because everyone has a problem some are visible and some are not, and that affects how they help.

Back to my story…

As a result birthday parties and the park became my hangout, I did not need heels I was scared I would trip as I had three little people around me… something as simple as a lipstick do you know I did not need a lipstick.

Now it hits me…

Who would survive without lipstick, how did I survive and my hair. Something is wrong with this picture… What happened? Why didn’t someone drag me in for an intervention?

I want you to enjoy raising your kids and have time for you, at any stage you are in. Prepare to launch yourself out into your future; your launch could be that you are starting a new business, be more active on social media, join a women’s group in your neighborhood, finding time for a healthy and fit lifestyle or just to treat yourself to a new hairstyle or clothes on a budget.

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So as we rediscover our passion and the things we once loved, I ask that we watch our kids and discover what they love too.

Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.
Proverbs 22: (KJV)

Change Watch:

My question is what have you noticed in your child?

What passion do they have? Can you find them a mentor or research ways to help them at home with this talent, what do they love to do? (do they love collecting rocks, star/moon gazing or do they talk nonstop, do they love reading when everyone else is sleeping) all these questions will lead you to your child’s passion.

Can you please nurture and inspire these talents in them, because these are the things you needed encouraged in you when you were little but no one did and as you nurture this talents they get better at it.

Thanks a bunch…

Sincerely In Joy,

Gloria Adeyeye

My picks for encouraging passion in kids

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